Life Is Too Short To Stay Mad For Too Long..

Anger is a wasted emotion.

Too much energy, too much effort spent on a negative feeling that gets you no closer to being happy than the original catalyst that caused it. Many more worthwhile pursuits exist than to than to sit around seething in anger.

Anger at past happenings are better off being let go. The past cannot be changed, better to look toward the future. Anger at people can be distilled into two categories. People you care about and people you don't. The latter should simply be dismissed. Being mad at this person only serves to make you unhappy. It can never have a better resolution. Again just let it go. In the other case, it is much better to try and understand why the person did what was they did that made you mad. This is a much quicker path to resolution than fuming over what could be little more than a misunderstanding.

Living life, is about finding happiness. It really is just too short to waste precious time on being angry. There is too much to be done, and so little time to do it in.

Source: Gryffon, http://everything2.com

p/s: couldn't agree more. tak elok marah-marah, cepat tua. *winks*

Top Ten Things Men Hate About Women

1.
Take it easy baby!

Women always need to
discuss the relationship. Why cant they just take it as it comes.

2.
Shop till I drop!

They
love shopping! Not only is the list endless, they have to check 10 different
things before they finally buy the one they first saw. Have it your way, lady,
but leave us out of it.

3.
Never satisfied:

You
never get to reach a party on time. They spend hours preening in front of the
mirror and then stress about someone turning up in the same outfit. Have you
ever hear a man say "Oh no, I'm so embarrassed, there's another man wearing a
black tuxedo."

4.
Fashion:

Her tastes in
fashion changes every so frequently that you either run out breath trying to
catch up, or end up wondering whether you are too dumb to catch up.

5.
They notice the minutest things:

Why do women have to
criticize other women on everything from hairstyle to shoes and everything in
between? Only a woman can notice something as trivial as the purse not matching
the shoes!

6.
Jealousy!

Nothing can
beat that. Sometimes, it only so little as the mention of another woman's name
and you could down on your knees licking her feet like a dog.

7.
Possessiveness!

Women
seem to have a serious security issues. How else would you explain their need for
men to hold them, and tell them how special they are? The claim to be the modern
woman of the 21st century, and suddenly become extremely insecure once they
finally fall in love.

8.
The ‘testing’ thing you do...

Women love to test men
by throwing obscure theoretical questions like “What are you
thinking”. Then they just stand there arms crossed, foot tapping waiting
for the right answer by which we can prove that we are their
“soul-mates”.

9.
Oh, those tears!

They
cry over everything from a broken nail to a movie on TV. But it's really the
pits when they use their tears to emotionally blackmail us.

10.
"Holier than thou" attitude, ugh!

They never admit to
having had fooled around with other men. And, they are always complaining about
how much work they do around the house, no matter how much work we do.

Top Ten Things Women Hate About Men

1.
Ego!

We fail to understand why men cant stop and ask for direction till
it's 40 kms into the wrong direction?! Like, isn't it more sensible to just ask
for directions, you save on time, petrol and energy?

2. Would it kill to remember?

They
remember the names of cricketers from Holland and the scores each player has
made, but cannot for the life them remember birthdays, anniversaries and buying
gifts. What kind selective memory is that?

3. Ogling:

They love to ogle at
women (read breasts), even when they are with their date. Like, how rude!

4. Double talk:

They nod their heads during a talk about gender equality, and then
insist on paying the bills during a date, because it is not manly enough to let
the woman pay. Yeah, right! At least, not when someone could be watching.

5. Lazy men:

Talking
about gender equality and men supporting it, how about giving us a hand with
household chores?




6.
Possessive... ugh!

They are extremely possessive. Whatever makes them so
insecure as opposed to the manly image they like portray?

7. Hypocrisy:

They love to hang
out with “cool babes”, but when it comes to marriage they want a
“simple homely girl”. Guys, looks like you have around two centuries
of catching up to do. And... please hurry with it!

8. The basics of life:

Life
without booze, sex and cigarettes is just unthinkable. And, no, I haven't
figured the order of importance.

9. The phallic symbol:

They have a
birth right over the Remote control. Seems it is more like a phallic symbol that
they need to carry around at home, I guess.

10. Superman!

Think of themselves
to be exalted beings - a mechanic, technician, plumber and financial advisor all
rolled into one. We might have liked that about you, if you didn't make such a
big deal out of it!

5 Things Your Girlfriend Won't Tell You

1. We like the chase – you chasing us.
Yep, it’s sad but true that when a guy is too eager to catch us we wonder why. What is wrong with this guy? Why is he so clingy? Is he a control freak? Is he a serial dater? A player with many girlfriends on the go? Is he insane? It’s not that we don’t want to be caught, we do, we just don’t want to feel trapped and when things happen too fast trapped is how we feel. We need to be sure of our feelings and of our attraction before we can step off the racetrack and give up the chase. You need to woo us to make us yours. Some guys lay out traps, saying all the right things and meaning none of them, in an attempt to woo us and this gives way to our biggest fear; falling prey to an insincere guy who is more about the game than being in a relationship. For this reason even once we’re yours, even once we are sure of your feelings and you are sure of ours, we need to still feel a little bit of the chase. When you chase us we feel like you want us and are willing to do some work to be with us and we don’t want that feeling to go away just because you’ve caught us.

2. When we say we’re “OK” or that things are “fine” the opposite is probably true.
Girls are communicators. It is hardwired in to our psyches to talk and talk and talk some more whenever there is discord or conflict. So if you sense there’s a problem and gather the courage to ask us and we respond with a “fine” or “it’s ok” or some other sentence with less than 7 (short) words chances are good that we really want to talk. So, you think, what’s a guy to do? You ask a question, you get an answer, and you plan based on that answer. Who wants to read between the lines or guess what is really going on? What a waste of time, right? Wrong! When girls pull the short answers out during a conversation it is because we want you to put the effort in to getting us to open up. It comes from a place of feeling like you don’t usually care what we have to say so we want you to put some effort in to getting us to talk so we can be sure we will be listened to. Now those perceptive guys among you may have your hands up right now waiting to ask the obvious question… if a girl feels like she’s not usually heard isn’t that the REAL problem? Yes, yes it is, and one little talk won’t stop that feeling of being marginalized. In psychology we call this a learned response, a behavior that does not come naturally but rather has been developed through a process called social conditioning. You may very well be the most attentive boyfriend since the dawn of time but if her previous guys made her feel insignificant or unheard you’ll have to help her carry that baggage. Heck, you’ll have to help her unpack it and put it away! So when your girl replies with a curt little answer to your questions don’t take her at face value. Calmly and gently ask her a few more times. Once she feels like you will hear her nature will take over and, voila! You’ll be communicating.

3. We want you to have your guy time.
It is such a myth that girls don’t like to let their guy just hang with the boys. It's a terrible lie perpetrated by relationship-phobes throughout the ages. It is totally untrue that we want you to give up your life to be with us. Think of it this way… when we met you and fell for you, you were (hopefully) single and your friends were a big part of your life. Take your friends away and a big piece of the guy we fell for goes with them. So we want you to keep your guy time. We know you need your friends and truth be told we need our friends too. That being said, obviously when you are single you have lots of spare time to spend with friends but when you are in a relationship some of that time is going to be taken up by your significant other (A.K.A. us). That is only normal. It is normal for you to need your guy time and it is normal for you to want to spend time with us. If you find the right balance the guy-time issue quickly becomes a non-issue. It is when we feel like you don’t make as much time for us as you do for them or that you resent being away from your friends when you are with us that the stereotypical “girlfriend verses the friends” scenario takes the stage. It’s all about balance. Spending time with your friends or with us will never be an issue as long as there is a balance and as long as we never feel that they mean more to you than we do or that they come always first.

4. We want to know your friends but aren’t so sure you need to know ours.
I’m not going to lie; this is hypocrisy in its most raw form. We want you to bring us around your friends, we want to know them and we want them to like us, but we aren’t quite as crazy about you knowing our friends. The why of this is as simple as it is irrational and here it is… we want to know your boys so we can understand the kinds of things they may get you to do when we’re not around. In short, will they encourage you to cheat on us, will they get you doing reckless and dangerous things, and will they help you engage in self-destructive activities? What we want to know is if they will be good or bad influences on you. We also want to create a buffer; we want your friends to like us so that they won’t want you to lose us. If there is no tension between your friends and us then we don’t need to fear them asking you to choose between love and friendship. Now on the flip side, we don’t really want you getting all chummy with our friends because we don’t want them to fill you in on all of our dirty little secrets. As previously noted girls are talkers by nature and we don’t want them to let something slip that may make you raise an eyebrow in our direction. We also fear, but will never admit fearing, you wanting one of our friends more than you want us. It’s bad enough to lose your guy to another girl but when that girl was once a friend, well, the sting is even sharper. So allow us this hypocrisy. It’s irrational, that's true, but it’s also quite harmless.

5. We worry that other girls look better now that you are in a relationship.
Mike nailed the core of every girlfriend's relationship insecurity on the head when he brought up the GIGS (Grass Is Greener Syndrome). The idea that life is better on the other side is one of the most destructive forces in relationship world and girls feel that guys fall for it way too often. It is a great fear of ours that once you can’t have other girls you will suddenly want them all. It leads to a lot of unfounded jealousy brought on by innocent comments on your part or casual non-flirtatious conversations with other girls. So what’s a guy to do? In a perfect world you’d stop interacting with other girls altogether but our rational super-ego knows that’s not realistic. What you need to do is follow these three simple rules; 1) never pay more attention to another girl than you do to your girlfriend, 2) never comment over and over how hot/cool/nice/fun another girl is, and 3) if you meet a great girl while you’re in a relationship hook her up with one of your buddies (also known as taking her off the market and getting her out of our face). And should you ever really get the itch to jump the fence and live life on the other side... just do it! Don’t lead us on, don’t cheat on us, don’t sneak around, just end the relationship. If it ends up being a GIGS fueled mistake… oh well, consider it a hard lesson learned and leave us alone... we won't want you back anyway!

5 Things Your Boyfriend Won't Tell You

1. We like being “the boyfriend.”
   Girls often think that guys are players-at-heart who love the single life and only settle down because society tells them that they have to, but nothing could be further from the truth. Sure there are some guys who get a serious case of the GIGS (Grass Is Greener Syndrome) every time they make a commitment to a girl but these guys are the exception not the rule. We other guys have a word to describe our flakey won’t settle down counterparts – immature. For the most part guys love being in love just as much as girls do.
2. We don’t like when you pull away from us.
   Guys are competitive beasts so you’d think that the hard to get game would make us give chase, and in the beginning stages of a relationship it does, but once we’ve settled in and made a commitment to you we want the chase to stop. If you keep it up, if you keep pushing us away with your right hand while pulling us closer with your left, you’ll quickly find that we start pulling away altogether. Once we open our hearts the game totally changes for us. We don’t want to chase you forever so when you pull away from us, we pull away from you in what amounts to a psychological tug-o-war. The more you pull away the more we respond in kind. Keep it up and everyone just gets tired and calls it quits. So once you’ve landed your guy don’t keep playing hard to get, instead let him know that you’re happy you were caught.
3. We want our friends to like you… but not love you.
   In guy world the approval of our friends is very important so it makes sense that we want our friends to like you. But what we don’t want is for them to covet you. When we hook up with a very hot girl and our buddies ogle her it is a real turn off. This is why so many really pretty girls find themselves single. We just can’t handle the thought of losing you to one of our friends because if that happens we lose our girl, one of our boys and a big chunk of our egos. So if our friends like you and think you're cool that’s great but if they wish they could have you that’s bad. Unfortunately this is totally out of your control. Rest assured that as guys get older we get more secure and this one matters less but in the meantime know this - if you’ve ever been dumped by a guy who you thought really liked you shortly after meeting his friends take comfort in the fact that you were probably just too hot for him to handle.
4. We want you to like, but not love, our friends.
   This one goes along with the other one for obvious reasons but there is a little more to it. Obviously we don’t want you ditching us to be with one of our buddies but we also don’t want you to work overtime trying to win our friends over. Sometimes no matter how great you are our friends will only act luke-warm toward you. This is most likely not your fault and usually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them but as long as our friends and you can hang out without incident the boyfriend in us is happy. We don’t want you to go out of your way to get our friends to like you because we want your energy focused on us and only us. We don’t want you to care what other guys think about you. We want your efforts and attentions to rest firmly on us. Is that immature? Probably. But hey, we’re guys!
5. We worry that YOU will dump US.
   If there is one thing I see over and over in the girl magazines it’s question after question about how to keep a guy interested but that’s not really very hard. When we like you, we like you and that’s all there is to it. In reality we probably spend more time worrying that you’ll dump us than we would ever spend thinking about dumping you. So relax and stop fixating on how or when our relationship will end and just be our girlfriend. That’s all it really takes to keep a guy happy.

Ways To Turn Men Down

HIM: Can I buy you a drink?
HER: Actually I'd rather have the money.

HIM: I'm a photographer. I've been looking for a face like yours
HER: I'm a plastic surgeon. I've been looking for a face like yours.

HIM: Hi. Didn't we go on a date once? Or was it twice?
HER: Must've been once. I never make the same mistake twice.

HIM: How did you get to be so beautiful?
HER: I must've been given your share.

HIM: Will you go out with me this Saturday?
HER: Sorry. I'm having a headache this weekend.

HIM: Your face must turn a few heads.
HER: And your face must turn a few stomachs.

HIM: Go on, don't be shy. Ask me out.
HER: Okay, get out.

HIM: I think I could make you very happy.
HER: Why? Are you leaving?

HIM: What would you say if I asked you to marry me?
HER: Nothing. I can't talk and laugh at the same time.

HIM: Can I have your name?
HER: Why? Don't you already have one?

HIM: Shall we go see a movie?
HER: I've already seen it.

HIM: Where have you been all my life?
HER: Hiding from you.

HIM: Haven't I seen you some place before?
HER: Yes. That's why I don't go there anymore.

HIM: Is this seat empty?
HER: Yes and this one will be if you sit down.

HIM: So, what do you do for a living?
HER: I'm a female impersonator.

HIM: Hey baby what's your sign?
HER: Do not enter.

HIM: Your body is like a temple.
HER: Sorry, there are no services today.

HIM: If I could see you naked, I'd die happy.
HER: If I saw you naked, I'd probably die laughing

HIM: Where have you been all my life?
HER: Where I'll be the rest of your life - in your wildest dreams.

p/s: *chuckles*

20 Cheap Date Ideas !

1.Get on thin ice. Depending on the weather, head to an indoor or outdoor ice-skating rink—it’s the perfect excuse to hold hands, “accidentally” fall on top of each other, and grab a cup of hot chocolate and cozy up to each other to keep warm..

2. Get an adrenaline rush at the rollerskating rink. As long as you don’t mind being the oldest people there who aren’t chaperoning their children, it’s a great way to have fun and let loose with each other. Top it off with a bowl of ice cream when you get home.

3. Spend the day fruit picking at a local farm, either one-on-one or with a few couples you know--the more the merrier. Once you've picked all the apples you can carry back to the car, get creative in the kitchen and think up some recipes with the fruit you picked. Judge each other's creations, Top Chef style.

4. Score major points and head to a baseball game with your guy. Tickets can be as cheap as $5 a person, but bring extra cash for some beer, hot dogs, and a giant foam finger.

5. Rent bikes—a tandem one, if you’re adventurous—and go for a long ride through the park. Pack a few sandwiches and plenty of water for a picnic, or just grab hot dogs from a stand when you’re ready for a break.

6. Spice up your movie night routine by finding a drive-in movie theater. Stop at the supermarket on your way to load up on your favorite snacks, and bring blankets and pillows to make the car extra cozy. Let him pick the movie--you'll get points for being easygoing, even though you know you'll probably miss most of the movie.

7. Head to the bookstore and walk through the aisles together, showing each other your favorite books, bonding over the books you both hated, and flipping through a Kama Sutra book for ideas for later.

8. Bowl him over at the bowling alley. Psych him out by reminding him of how many gross people wore his shoes before him, and don’t forget to program his sugary-sweet nickname (“muffin-face”) onto the computerized scoreboard instead of his real name.

9. Skip the pricey wine bar and grab a few beers at your local dive joint. Make sure you pick a place with a pool table or dart board set up, and challenge him to a few games. Loser owes the winner a song on the jukebox.

10. Show him your rugged side and build something together. Ask him to help you build something like a coffee table or dresser for your place--he'll be psyched that you asked him, just as long as you can bite your tongue when the table he puts together falls apart the moment you set your cup of coffee down.

11. Appeal to his inner child (it shouldn't be too hard to tap into), and buy tickets for a carnival. Embrace the cheesiness--share cotton candy, let him try to win you a prize, and ride the Ferris Wheel until you get nauseous. It's a great way to get to know each other if you've just started dating, and will serve as a reminder of how much fun you can have together if you've been dating for a while.

12. Keep up on the specials. For a break on your dinner bill, check out sites like Restaurant.com for the restaurant deals in your area. And check out the websites of your favorite bars - they might have drink specials on certain nights, like a free pizza with every drink.

13. Ask him about his fantasy cars and he’ll probably talk your ear off. Head over to a local car dealership and test-drive the most expensive car they’ll let you take out of the parking lot. Take turns with the wheel the resist the urge to nitpick each other’s driving skills.

14. Indulge your sweet tooth with your sweetie—visit a chocolate or cookie factory. Do a quick Google search to see if there are any in your area, and give them a call to see if they do tours. If they only do group tours, make it a group date and invite a few other couples.

15. Get spooked at a haunted house. Check out hauntedhouse.com for listings in your state. Start off the night by watching a scary movie before you go, and then try not to laugh when he launches a foot into the air at every corner.

16. Get out those matching aprons and fire up the skillet for a night of cooking—for the both of you. Learn how to cook each other’s favorite meal and then do it together. Whether you end up with a delicious steak and tuna casserole for two, or speed-dialing for Chinese takeout, you’re guaranteed to enjoy the process.

17. Forget eating dinner parked in front of a Mad Men marathon until you and your boyfriend are tired of looking at each other. Invite another couple over that you don’t know super well for a potluck dinner. Ask them to bring the appetizer and dessert, and work on the main course with your guy. At least one of the dishes should come out edible, and you can bond with your new friends over your shared culinary failure.

18. Tap into your animal instincts and visiting a petting zoo. Bring some bread to feed the animals, and spend a few hours debating him on why getting a pet monkey is a bad idea. When you get home, jump in the shower with him to scrub off the zoo smell.

19. He may hate to shop, but he’ll end up thanking you if you drag him to a flea market. There’s something for everyone and plenty of things you never knew existed—you might even discover he has a hobby or weird collection you didn’t know about!

20. lay 20 Questions. Whether you’ve been together for three weeks or three years, there are probably things you don’t know about each other. Sit down next to each and write down 20 questions each about the other person - make sure they’re open-ended so you don’t get boring one-word answers - and fire away. Take turns answering each of your questions and get to know each other a little better than you already do.

Source: Diana Vilibert, www.marieclaire.com

p/s: there's actually 50 fantastic cheap date ideas altogether! Check `em out at www.marieclaire.com/life/sex/advice/cheap-date-ideas. =)